"Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny."
"Any man will usually get from other men just what he is expecting of them.
If he is looking for friendship, he will likely receive it.
If his attitude is that of indifference, it will beget indifference.
And if a man is looking for a fight, he will in all likelihood be accommodated in that."
— John Richelsen
That every thought has its chemical component in our body cannot be overemphasized. When you are happy with your work and or your boss, the workplace is heaven. You enjoy gong to work. You become a team player. Your productivity increases. This is because positive thoughts about your work environment produce chemicals that keep you elated, contented, more productive and healthier. Have a tiff with your boss, or have a mean supervisor and all hell can break loose. Going to work becomes a chore. You sleep fitfully so that you go to work with bags of skin under your eyes.
Stress is part of life. However, when stress becomes unrelenting, the stress hormone, cortisol overwhelms the body, thus affecting the chromosomes. The Telomeres bear the blunt and cause cell aging. This can make you age faster and make you sick. Recent studies have also shown that stress kills the brain cells. Hence, your attitude and approach to your problems should begin with your thoughts. Use your mind to evaluate your problems because you will find that most of your judgments are not real. They are imitations of the reality since you are wearing a pair of goggles called stress. When your stress levels are high, every pin that drops on your foot is a nail pinning your foot down. You have it in you to change your negative attitudes and thoughts so you can have the chance to heal and enjoy life. These are some suggestions that may help you.
- Get to know your body, because when you are under stress certain parts of your body such as your neck, shoulders and your back may start hurting. When this happens, you should re-examine your thoughts to see whether what is stressing you is worth the pain you are having. This is when you have dialogue with yourself. Watching your thoughts is half the battle won. You become the observer of your thoughts and can train yourself to walk away from any thoughts that trigger your stress-induced pain. If you cannot talk to yourself, with whom can you talk? To live a happy life is to be able to know the real you so you can have conversation with yourself.
- You should not expect perfection in life. You are human and hence, things may go wrong in your life. So far as you can breathe, eat and drink, you can overcome whatever ails you through your God given ability to get up when fate puts you down. This approach to living requires discipline and demands your watching your emotions and your thoughts so they do not go astray. Your thoughts are like toddlers that are learning to walk. They destroy anything in their paths. Your purpose is to watch them closely and save them from themselves.
- Be gentle with yourself. Life is not a race you have to win to achieve laurels. It is the reason for our existence and hence we are here for the long haul. So treat yourself with love and kindness. Know your weakness and acquire skills to overcome them. When you see the new You, the skills you acquired on your way would keep your mind and body healthy.
"If you keep on saying things are going to be bad, you have a good chance of becoming a prophet."
— Isaac Bashevis Singer, Yiddish-American writer (1904-1991)